Design And Live The Optimal Scenario in Everyday Life
Have you ever been so far that you wanted to start over? What prevented you from doing this: Lack of time, or work volume? The bigger an idea of change, the faster it is considered unrealistic and rejected. So better start with small change projects. That's what Sonja Radatz explains in her book “Design, otherwise you will be designed. ”
Two reasons for change
People often change only when disruptive factors happen such as conflicts, failures or when other difficulties arise. The resulting dissatisfaction creates courage and energy to question your own actions and to look for alternative options. Behind it is a passive or reactive attitude: you react because something bothers you. In contrast, people with a proactive attitude approach changes differently: They change because they have defined new goals for themselves. The origin of the change request is therefore more inside a person than outside (ie in the environment).
Setting goals consciously and thus initiating changes means active self-management.
What can active self-guidance look like in everyday life? Sonja Radatz (2016) provides guidance on this topic. This serves to design a personal optimal scenario in 6 steps.
Design and live the optimal scenario in everyday life1. Design a personal optimal scenario
The first thing is to define the topics that are important to you in everyday life:
- What do you optimally want to live every day?
- What is of central importance for you?
This is about things in your everyday life that make you happy. It can also be very small things.
Write down each topic on a post-it and stick all post-its on a large piece of paper. Hang up the sheet of paper somewhere, take a step back and ask yourself: “If you live what is written on your post-its, are you leading an optimal life?
2. Live personal optimal scenario
When the optimal scenario is ready, it is important to implement it in everyday life from now on . Otherwise there is a risk that it will disappear somewhere in a drawer. When implementing the personal optimal scenario, the following points must be observed:
- Planning: How do you design your day so that you can live your optimal scenario (at least in part)?
- Self-observation : Are you doing what you really want or do you need a change?
- Review in the evening: On a scale from 1 to 10 - how well did you manage to live your optimal scenario today? Where is there any need for improvement?
Now it is a matter of examining in which areas of life you can live your optimal scenario and where adjustments might be useful.
Should it no longer fit somewhere: Do you have the opportunity to change something in the relevant system (team, company, family, circle of friends etc.) or do you have to leave it? If both are out of the question, it is best to just keep reading.4. Check alternative behavior in the system
If neither a change in the system nor leaving the system is possible or seems sensible, it can also be checked whether alternative action leads to an improvement in the situation. The key question is: How can you alternatively design your behavior / procedure so that everyone is better off?
Do the contents from points 3 and 4 seem familiar to you? Yes, this is all about examining your options in terms of "take it, change it or leave it".5. Dealing with relapses
So much in advance: relapses are absolutely normal for personal change projects. The following questions could be useful in preparation:
- Who realizes that you are not doing what you set out to do?
- How would you like to be made aware that you have "relapsed"?
The optimal scenario will change again and again. It is therefore important to stay tuned and check the following regularly:
- Does the optimal scenario still correspond to what you want to experience every day?
- What is missing? What should be changed?
- What are you doing differently and what is your reward for it?
Before you get started
It should be emphasized once again that this is not necessarily about the immediate change of life as a whole, but about consciously shaping your everyday life. When defining the optimal scenario, I would therefore make absolutely sure that you only undertake as much as you can implement on a daily basis. You can then increase at any time and continuously adapt the scenario. Have fun designing!
- How consciously are you designing your life?
- How do you live your optimal scenario?
- Where would you have room for improvement?
- Who would you support?