10 Things Happy People Never Do
Everyone naturally aspires to be happy, to achieve happiness everyone is talking about. Most people are concerned with what they need to do in order to be happy. What about things you can just stop doing to be happier? Most of the time, being happy is about dropping bad habits and negative thoughts that are problematic. If you want to be happier, stop doing the 10 things happy people never do !
1. Care about what others think of them
If you’re still looking for approval from the people around you, you’ll never be satisfied. While it is great to be positively rated by others, you will not find true satisfaction by always worrying about their opinion. When you free yourself from the expectations of others, you are ultimately able to trust yourself.
It is also good to remember that the people who really love you will accept you as you really are. They are your real friends and family. Losing energy for someone who cannot love you is not worth it.
And remember, until you accept yourself as you are, you cannot really love yourself. Above all, to be happy is to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to do it?
2. Live in the past
While there is nothing wrong with remembering things from the past, there is nothing positive about living in the past. It’s a good thing to reflect on the good times you’ve had and even dwell on your losses and regrets.
But in any case we approach our way to the future using our experiences. You cannot live in the past or resuscitate it. Happy people never try it. They live in the present. When the present is not ideal, they live in the hope of a better future without clinging to memories of what happened.
3. Focus on the negative sides of other people
No one comes into the world in a perfect version and, to make things even more complicated, most of our strengths are the flip side of our shortcomings. This means that you have to be ready to take the good and the bad even in the best people. Happy people focus on the strengths of others, regardless of their weaknesses.
4. Interfering in others business
Do you constantly focus on what other people are doing? Do you watch your neighbors through your windows, spy on your ex-boyfriend online, or worry about what your competing businesses are doing?
If so, you are probably too involved in the lives of others. When you are focused on others, you will fill your life with a toxic drama and negativity that does not even concern you. When you focus on your own life, you can lead a more positive existence. Besides, nobody likes to be involved in their business. So don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you.
5. Compare their life to others
This point follows directly the previous one. When you constantly compare your life, your achievements, your relationships and your possessions with those of other people, the grass will always appear greener through the fence.
Remember that you will never get a complete picture of what it is to be someone else. No matter how wonderful your friend or neighbor’s life looks, the chances are you have something he would be willing to give, his right hand is great.
So do your best to be thankful for the wonderful gifts you have in your own life instead of making constant comparisons.
6. Unjustly blaming others for their failures
One of the most difficult things you realize when you grow up is that you will not live the life you dreamed of when you were a child. When we are young, we are taught that we can do or be anything. But after graduating from the real world, you quickly discover that you're more likely to be buried in a mess of bills than flying to the moon.
Happy people learn to accept a change of perspective and accept that we cannot do everything we dream of. We are limited by the time and place we were born. While there are many things we can change, there are many that we can do nothing about.
If you believe that you are solely responsible for your situation, you will feel guilty for the rest of your life for not having reached the inevitable. It’s a perfect recipe for being miserable.
Instead, look for ways to make your dreams come true, but accept that you don't control everything that happens to you and that it's not always your fault when you fail.
7. Keep grudges
You must not forget the bad things that were done to you and you must never accept the cruel actions or injustices of others. But you can give yourself permission to let go of the pain, anger and resentment that you keep in you.
A grudge is like a heavy stone weighing you forever, until you release it. Happy people learn to forgive for themselves.
8. Stay in toxic situations or relationships
Commitment is a great thing, but not when it comes at the expense of your happiness, your integrity and your well-being. Happy people never stay in situations they know are toxic to them.
They come out of bad apartments, bad neighborhoods, bad relationships and bad businesses, even if it means taking a risk or breaking a deal. They know that no form of self-sacrifice is noble. Some are simply self-destructive.
9. Blame themselves for the past
One of the dangers of living in the past is not just hanging on to old happy memories in place of new ones. It also means falling back into the wrong ones. Happy people do not stay awake night after night thinking about their past failures.
They recognize the mistakes they have made and the betrayals they have experienced or orchestrated, but they have a responsibility to change in the present. However, they do not hate each other for the things they have done in the past.
Instead, they recognize that the person they are now is not the person they once were. They like to think that the person they are now would never hurt anyone else.
10. Lying to themselves
A trap in life in which you don't have to fall to be happy refers to lying to yourself. It is better to accept and face certain truths, knowing that life involves a certain degree of pain, sadness, anger, loss and fear.
You have to realize that everyone has the right to happiness. Good things are worth fighting for. Happiness has nothing to do with ease or comfort.
Truly happy people realize this and refuse to live in a lie, even if it is easy. They know that making a difficult choice to be true to yourself is worth it. It's the only way to find true friends and family who love them, for whom they are truly important, and to lead meaningful lives.
"True happiness would be to remember the present." - Jules Renard